This post may just be outing myself, but I’m totally ok with being real.
Just curious…..do you ever tell someone that you are crazy busy just to justify why you haven’t met up with someone, or why you haven’t accomplished something, or just simply to get out of being asked to do something?
I just wonder if “crazy busy” is really very real and prevalent or if it’s an easy excuse when you don’t have anything else to say If you are brave…..share your thoughts with me!!!
I posed this question yesterday on my Facebook page and got many responses where people shared a little of their story and they really are busy. (this isn’t necessarily a post for those people 😉 )
Here’s my story. There are times when we are truly busy running from one thing to the next, but it’s honestly not anything that couldn’t be changed if need be, and it’s normally only nights here and there.
I totally understand if you are a single parent, you work full time (or more), or if you have multiple kids in multiple activities. I’ve been there. I get the craziness. This isn’t really questioning you. It’s more of outing my own talk and way of presenting myself and wondering if I’m a weirdo or if we really do this to ourselves.
I wrote a post in November 2012 that was called Lazy or Living the Dream. I have honestly always been that person. Except when I was working full time, I’ve never really been that busy. Even when I was working full time, I was completely ok with letting some things go, so I never felt like I just couldn’t keep my head above water.
I have been accused by employers of being efficient, so maybe I’m that way at home too. I don’t know, I just know that when I say I’m busy……it’s not usually the case.
Now, my house isn’t spotless by any means. It is clean, but not spotless. My kids aren’t involved in a million things. I do work from home, but it can be done in little bits of time or one larger (but still pretty small) chunk of time. I make my kids do chores. They do their own laundry. I menu plan. When my back isn’t messed up, I like to work out about 5 days a week.
I honestly have quite a bit of time during the day and I think I almost feel guilty about it, like I should constantly be doing something. But I tend to answer that we’ve been busy when people ask me how things are going. Why? To make myself feel better about having a life that’s not consumed by busyness?
Maybe it’s because I just don’t like to be tied down that we aren’t over committed. Maybe it’s because I like to be spontaneous. Maybe it’s because I like to be available to my family at a moments notice.
I don’t know why I’m not busy. Like I said, I now work from home, but even when I was full time, I didn’t feel busy. Is busy a choice? Do we let ourselves fall into that trap because it’s the catchphrase right now? Because we somehow feel that we need (and our kids need) to be involved in everything under the sun to somehow get ahead? Do we feel that if we have any downtime we are lazy? What will people think? Why do we feel that our kids need to go to school all day and then be in organized activity all night, until they shove a quick dinner in their mouth and collapse into their beds only to do it all over again tomorrow?
I don’t know. Maybe I’m just lucky. Maybe I just figured it out by accident. But then why do I tell people that I’m busy? Just to fit in? Just to relate? So they don’t feel bad that they have no breathing room and I do?
I seem to have this question pop up in my head every time I give someone that knee-jerk reaction answer that I’ve been busy…..because I don’t know why I say it.
If you are truly that crazy busy, why? Are you unrealistic about what you can accomplish? Are you people pleasing, trying to do the right thing? Do you just take on too much because you can’t say no?
Don’t send me hate mail, I’m not calling anyone out or saying that you aren’t busy……..I know that some of you really are, by no choice of your own. I’m just wondering if I’m the only one that almost feels guilty that I’m not, so I hurriedly state that I am, so that you don’t wonder why I’m not involved or something.
The truth is……I am not busy. I do the things that I need to do. I get done the things that I need to get done. And I have a lot of downtime……by choice. We are able to be spontaneous as a family. I am able to run an errand for my husband or kids when they need me. I can meet with a friend when it works for them, because I purposely keep it that way.
Should I be giving more of my time? Maybe, maybe not. But the more I think about it, the more I like to be basically unscheduled. I guess I just need to own it and do me. Maybe it will inspire someone else to take time to enjoy life or not jump into every little thing because they feel that they have to.
Do you ever tell someone something because you feel the need to justify yourself?
Is this just a mental thing for me because I feel less than if I can’t proclaim busyness?
Are you truly busy or are you just carrying that around like a badge of honor, because it’s expected?
If you are truly busy and don’t hate me already…..is there anything you can let go or delegate so that you truly have time to enjoy your life?
Don’t forget to like and share this, I’d love to get some discussion going. It may just prove that I’m a weirdo….but that’s ok, I can handle it 😉