I read a post over at ‘Heavenly Homemakers’ today about appreciating your spouse. I have touched on this before, about your attitude towards your spouse. However, what do you do to make sure that your spouse knows they are loved and appreciated?
My hubby and I have hound dogs. We use them to hunt coyotes, bears, and occasionally a raccoon. It is a HUGE part of our life. My daughters absolutely love it and can’t wait to go ‘runnin’ anytime we go. They happily rise at 4am and hop in the truck or stay up all night to be in on the action. They help with feeding, watering, cleaning kennels, training, etc. My hubby’s year revolves around ‘running season’ which is early July to mid March.
I don’t share this love. I am not a ‘dog person’. We got a house dog this last December, and I love her, but I really could take or leave the hounds. I do, however, love spending time with my family so every weekend, during running season, I am up at the crack of dawn (and I am NOT a morning person). I am making coffee, packing lunches and snacks, getting the girls up and around, etc. I do this because I know how much they all love it. I don’t hate it, and sometimes I do enjoy it, but it is more for them than for me. I know that my hubby loves me being out there and
pretending to showing interest in his favorite hobby. A couple times he went without me and he always says, “It’s just not as fun. I like having you in the truck when I come back”. We also were fighting a couple times and I didn’t talk to him when he got back. It about killed him. He can’t stand it if he can’t tell me how the dogs ran that day, or what happened to who, or whatever.
This is just one of the ways I show my hubby that I appreciate him. I know there are a lot of women out there that would say that I am being a doormat and giving my life up for my hubby, but I don’t see it that way. We have a wonderful marriage and I feel it’s because I make it a point to make his life as easy as possible. I feel like that is my God given duty, to be his help mate and if that means crawling out of a nice warm bed at 4am to run bears, then that is what I will do.
One other example: Last night my hubby was outside fixing our riding lawnmower. I know that he likes it when I am around him, even if just to chat while he works. I went outside and asked him if he needed any help. I surely don’t know how to fix a lawnmower, but was willing to help if he needed it. I think I ended up getting him one tool, but it was me showing interest in what he was doing that was the point.
It’s so easy to get caught up in the day to day things that need to be done. I had to vacuum and the cupboards needed cleaned off, but I chose to sit with my hubby for a minute and watch the kids playing outside. The little things can wait, but marriages must be nurtured. It only took a minute to make my hubby feel important and that makes it all worth it!
What little things do you intentionally do to make your spouse feel important or appreciated? Do you do things you don’t enjoy because you know your spouse would like you involved?