I had the tv on in the background this morning while I was checking my email, Facebook, and blogs I follow. An advertisement came on for ‘Outrageous Kid Parties’. It got me thinking….’I wonder why our children think the world revolves around them?’ Regardless of how much money you have, why in the world does a kid need a several thousand dollar birthday party? What are you teaching them with that other than to be selfish, wasteful, and greedy?
We did birthday parties for my children when they were little but then it just go to be too much. It was causing stress by spending money we didn’t have, needing time we didn’t want to give, etc basically just to please family. I remember putting a cake on my credit card for one of these parties. How stupid!!! My hubby wasn’t working at the time, so our funds were limited. But parties were ‘the thing to do’ for family, so we faked our way through it. That was the last time.
We decided that from then on, we would do a birthday party for their 1st birthday but that was it. Even then, it wasn’t over the top. The only difference was that we invited more people for cake and ice cream instead of just celebrating it with just our immediate family.
Now, we just do whatever dinner the birthday kid wants (in or out), and whatever cake and ice cream they want. They get a few small gifts and that is that. They feel special because the day/night is all theirs with the focus on them. It’s special without being self serving.
These crazy parties are ridiculous. They are for the parents to show off and let everyone know how ‘good’ they are and make the children feel like the world should revolve around them. How is that teaching a servants heart? I would guess that these parents aren’t worried about a ‘servants heart’ but that the world should revolve around you and that life is all rosy. This just shows what is wrong with society in general today. It’s all for show and being better than everyone.
We do little parties. My kids love them. They feel special without being self centered. They don’t get anything big or outlandish for gifts. Just a few, fairly inexpensive, gifts that are geared to what is most important to them (usually less than $50 total).
We went to the Amish discount store the other day to grab a few things. They were totally excited to go. They talked about it all day. When we got there they were ecstatic that they could buy stuff with their money. They spent the whole time we were there searching for ‘the best deal’ among $.30 and less candy. The big ones let the little ones buy stuff. They found stuff they thought another might like and bought it for them (with their own money). Then, when we got back in the car, they spent the whole ride home exchanging and ‘trying’ everyone else’s stuff. It was an awesome, amazing day to them.
We don’t spend a lot of money on our children. They know the are loved when we have money and when we don’t. They appreciate little things and get excited over small stuff. That is the beauty of being a child…..enjoying the little things. Not feeling like you are worthless because you didn’t get a huge party or gift. We need to teach our children that they are special because of who they are, not what we (or others) can give them.
I’m not against birthday parties…..just the overindulgence that serves no other purpose than to encourage selfishness.
As I was finishing this post, that commercial aired again and one of the voices that was in the background said this: “If you didn’t have fun here, you just need to go home and kill yourself”. What?! Seriously?! Can’t imagine that her kid would be the brat in the grocery store, can ya? I am appalled by that statement and really have no other words to say about it. Utterly disgusting to me.