So, I’m a little confused. Here’s my question.
What is the line between laziness and living in the moment?
Is is a matter of attitude? If you are intentionally living, enjoying the moment, ‘stopping to smell the roses’ it’s ok to let responsibilities slide but if you are intentionally sitting on your hiney and playing on Pinterest you’re being lazy? You always see advice to leave the dishes, let the laundry pile up and go play with your kids or read them a book. On the other hand, you get advice to have a clean house and the best way to go about it. So, if you do the first, are you lazy? If your house is spotless are you an overachiever?
Let me enlighten you on why I struggle with this….I’ve talked about it before, but it’s been on my mind a lot lately. I guess my issue is more with having the above done and having an excess of downtime. If I don’t fill it with something am I being lazy?
I have quite a lot of down time. Yes, I homeschool 4 kids. Yes, I have an extra kid or two most days of the week. Yes, I do all of the housework and cook all of the meals. Yes, I blog. Here’s a breakdown of my days…..
On Mondays, I do laundry and clean the house. As the laundry comes out, I put it away (for my hubby and I and my littlest one. The older 3 get their clothing folded and returned to their hamper and when laundry is done, they are responsible for putting it away). I clean the bathrooms, tidy up the kitchen, dust, vacuum, wash bedding, etc this day. Even with all this, it doesn’t take all day, but it does keep me fairly busy….for Monday.
My older girls do their own schoolwork unless they need help. My oldest (almost 13) does Switched on Schoolhouse. My 2nd oldest (almost 11) does SOS for 2 subjects and a student led curriculum for 2 more subjects. They are always doing a ‘Bible centered project‘ for a lady at church. It ranges from handwriting projects to verse memorization with animal recognition to handmade cards…on and on.
My 3rd daughter (almost 7) does Ticket to Read for phonics and reading and has a workbook that she does math pages in a few days a week. She is to the point of doing Ticket to Read by herself, for the most part. Her science is also student led. A few days a week, I read her the text and she works in her workbook until she tires of it, then we let it go. We read a ton of animal books from the library so that factors into her science also.
My 4th daughter (4yo) does letter pages most days, but it usually only takes a few minutes. No pushing her. She already knows many letters and their sounds, so I’m not overly pushy with her ‘schoolwork’. She learns just as much (or more) playing school with her sisters. It amazes me how much she knows just from her older sisters teaching her for fun.
I menu plan and use my crockpot often. I’m not a big fan of being in the kitchen, so I plan simple quick meals or I put something in the crockpot in the morning.
I work out 4-5 days a week.
On Friday the laundry basket (upstairs, not the 3 girls’ downstairs) is usually getting pretty full again, so I may wash a load or two again on Friday, but that takes a few minutes at best to start the washer, transfer to the dryer, and hang the clothes up.
My house is clean. It’s not spotless, but if I incessantly cleaned all day, I would just be following my kids around cleaning up after them, which makes me crabby….so I don’t do it. My counters are clean, my floor is swept, and my bed is made….basically whatever is out is toys or leftovers from the play that is continually going on in this house.
So, back to my original question………when I have an abundance of free time through out the week am I living the dream or am I just being lazy? I find that my friends are hard to connect with because they have so much to accomplish and don’t have time. I don’t get it…..
My children play outside often and they are very good at entertaining themselves. I am not a ‘craft person’ but my 2nd daughter will do crafts with the little two. We do read lots of books together and I love sitting outside with them when it’s nice out.
We are in a very tight financial situation so any specials or unnecessary gas is out of the question.
My issue is that I feel that maybe I am missing something. Should I be more busy? I HATE the word bored, but
a lot of the time sometimes I am. Sure, I could clean more…but I don’t want to….and don’t necessarily need to. So, am I being lazy? I have seriously considered looking for a part time job just so I have something to take up some of my time (and obviously the extra money would come in handy).
My kids are good at keeping themselves busy (and they enjoy themselves), but I hate that I feel that I spend too much time on the computer or reading a book (including the Bible or a devotional). Truth is, when I do that, I feel lazy…..but I’m not shirking my responsibilities.
Ughh, I don’t know. What do you think? We (other mommy bloggers) preach that we need to live in the moment and slow down. If I slow down any more I won’t get out of bed 🙂 Is being busy (busy work) just for the sake of saying you’re busy the way to go? Or should I embrace what should be my ‘busy season of life’ and be thankful for the slow, quiet, down time I have?