I have been devouring everything ‘weight loss/healthier eating’ in my path lately (no pun intended :o) I have recently read “Food, Faith, and Fitness for Women” by Freeman-Smith, LLC. I also read “Reshaping It All” by Candice Cameron Bure. Both of these books were awesome, inspiring reads. While searching and reading other blogs and whatnot, I happened upon another book, “Made to Crave” by Lysa TerKeurst. I signed up for her 21 day challenge, in which a daily devotion is sent to you via email. It has been very beneficial to me thus far.
Two days ago, the title of the day was “Finding my beautiful”. It discusses being thankful for the things that you dislike about your body and not using them as a comparison to others. She gives the example of having ‘large ankles’ and being teased about them in school. She now is thankful that she has strong ankles and can hike, stand for a long time, etc because of them. She now can see slender ankles and be happy for the people that were blessed with them but not be jealous of them. That is ‘finding your beautiful’.
We were all made beautiful in our own ways and once we decide to be thankful for that, half of our battle is won. We will then begin to eat for nourishment, not emotion. Healthy body image is an important step in conquering eating issues.
We also must watch when discussing our ‘body hates’ around our children (which is discussed at great length nowadays, given our culture of unrealistic Barbie bodies). It isn’t enough, however, to stop obsessing over our bodies just to our children. I had been given the advice at one time that we also shouldn’t be discussing our issues with our husbands. I was very guilty of doing that. I was constantly pointing out my faults to my husband. She said this, “If you point our your faults to him all of the time, he will begin to notice them”. Why hadn’t I thought of that??? Of course if I am going on and on about my jiggly belly or my cellulite he is going to have his attention drawn to it. Then what? If he agrees, then I’m upset. If he doesn’t, I call him a liar. I put the poor guy in a lose~lose situation.
I have since then, for the most part, stopped doing that. I am conscious of not discussing that stuff with him. By not saying anything if I’m not feeling good about myself, I’m not dwelling on it either. He tells me, very often, that I am beautiful. I can be just crawling out of bed: no makeup, hair not done, eyes barely open (you get the picture) and he will say “Good morning beautiful”. How can I possibly want to taint his perception of me? He knew me in the days of skinny and no stretch marks and he still finds me beautiful.
I know not all guys are like that, but they will definitely look past many more of our faults than we think….especially when we aren’t pointing them out.
You are beautiful, in your own, special way. You just have to find it. Be thankful for the things you hate about yourself. Graciously accept compliments when they are given. It’ll change you attitude about yourself completely. If you hate your hair, be thankful you haven’t lost it to chemo. If you don’t like your eyes, be thankful you can see. If you despise your stretch marks, be thankful you were given the chance to be a Mommy.
An attitude of thanksgiving will help tremendously when dwelling of body issues. It will change from getting skinny, to being healthy and treating your body as a temple. Have you found your beautiful? What are you thankful for?
**All opinions about the books above are mine, I have not been compensated…..just blessed by them**