In the last few weeks, I have had some family staying with us. In the middle of July, my sister was here for about a week. Then last week, my cousin and her twin 2yo boys stayed here. It was so fun! I love it when family that lives far away gets to come visit.
I am a religious watcher of ” ‘Whatever’ kids and Counting” (The Duggars), so during the stay of both my sister and my cousin, I watched them. Both times I had to defend myself because they had opinions of them. It was actually quite a joke with my cousin (who stayed second) that I already had it out with my sister for watching them and to not get me started. My hubby sent out that warning….as he has also been the recipient of my irritation with people that judge them.
Do I want 19+ kids? Definitely not, however, who are we for judging them? They felt that they were following God’s will for their family. How do you justify condemning someone for following God’s will and leading for their life? Maybe if they were living off ‘the system’ or their children weren’t well adjusted or they couldn’t take care of them, then ok….maybe that wasn’t really God’s will for them. But they CAN afford them, they seem EXTREMELY well adjusted, and they are obviously WELL cared for (I wish I could take my kids on that many trips :o) It’s very obvious that God is providing for them (very well) and has a constant hand in their life. The comment was also made that “I wish I could afford that much ‘stuff'”. Well, you could….if you lived debt free. Anyone can commit to live without debt and pay cash for everything. It’s a lifestyle choice. It’s a ‘trusting in God to provide and give direction’ choice.
Because of my fascination of ‘how they work’ and my admiration of their abundant faith, I am intrigued by them. My cousin, after being warned to ‘not get her started’ said, “What are you, Amish?” We just laughed it off, but, in my own strange way, I consider that a compliment.
I have been in a period of relearning to trust God and seek his will for my life. In that process, we have been trying to simplify. We are trying to become debt free, get rid of clutter, and find amazing low cost or free places to take our children. Our tv is off more and we are being intentional about being present with our children and family.
I told my hubby yesterday, “Ya know, I guess given my goals and interest in changing the way our life works….I was strangely proud of being compared to Amish. (They are another of my interests, but I’m not ready to trade in my SUV for a buggy :o) They are a people that are very simple and minimal. I’m not trying to be that minimal, but I must be coming across as not interested in material things. I guess maybe I am getting closer to becoming who I desire to be”. He agreed and was also happy that we are mesmerized and thankful for gorgeous sunsets, evenings with an ice cream cone spent driving around looking for wildlife, and 4 children who raise (happily) at 3:30 am to go with Daddy to be in the woods.
I will continue to support (and defend, not that they need it :o) the Duggars and continue to be fascinated with the Amish. That is just who I am. Lets just hope that I can continue to take their ‘content with less material things and full of God’ attitudes and apply them to my life. They are amazing examples to us and I am glad I have the privilege to learn from them.